When our kids ask us questions about sex, we sometimes worry. We may not know what to say. We may worry they are having sex. But it's best to treat children's questions about sex as a normal part of children's curiosity about their world. If we can answer the children with honest, simple answers, our children will be likely to accept our answers.

Preschool age children often have questions that are very specific. They often ask:
* where do babies come from?, or
* how they get inside the mother?, or
* why do only mommies breastfeed babies?.

Try to answer in clear and easy to understand terms. Before you respond to a question with a complex answer, ask what they mean. Often times, they may want to know where they were born. If a child asks, "How does the baby get inside", a simple answer that it grows inside the Mommy may be enough.

As children reach fourth and fifth grade, they or their friends may be starting to develop. Children who are entering this stage, called puberty, have questions about the changes they are going through. This is a good time to think back and try to remember how you felt at that age. It is a time of many questions regarding the physical and emotional changes that happen while growing up. There are many fine books at stores and libraries that can help you and your children learn the facts together. It is a good idea to talk with children before they get their first menstrual period or wet dream, so they will know that these events are normal.

Sometimes parents worry that if they talk about sex with teens that it will encourage them to have sex. This is not true. Teens have many questions, and need the facts. They also need your advice on your family values about teens and sex. Today, with the serious consequences of teen pregnancy and diseases, it's more important than ever to have these talks.

It's OK to feel nervous about this topic. Our parents may not have given us much information about sex when we were kids. Relax, take a deep breath, and admit your embarrassment. Show your child that you will overcome that embarrassment because it is important. There are many fine resources to turn to. To learn more, ask your child's school nurse, your church youth director, or a healthcare provider.

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