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Letting Go of Resentment
 
What is resentment?
Bad things happen to everyone. Some people are able to release emotions easily. Others find they are holding feelings such as grudges and anger. When these unexpressed feelings build up, they become resentment.

When is resentment a problem?
So much has been written and said about anger that you may feel it is never okay to be angry. The truth is that anger is a natural emotion. It is normal to feel angry sometimes. It is also okay to express your anger. Expressing your anger at the right time and in the right ways will prevent you from feeling resentment. Letting resentment build up can eventually affect your physical health. It always affects your emotional health.

What can I do to help myself?
Expressing anger in the right way helps avoid feelings of resentment. These are some rules that will help:
  • Never hit anyone to express your anger, no matter what the cause.
  • Try to deal with your anger as soon as it is appropriate.
  • Deal with the current situation, not the whole history of conflict.
  • Express your anger in terms of how you feel.
  • Do not put the other person down.
  • Try to come up with helpful suggestions for the future.

Suppose you made a mistake. Someone might say: "You're stupid. You never do anything right. I hate you. You always do this. You don't care about me. You'll never change." Another person might say: "I felt unhappy when you did it that way. I would feel better if we did it this way next time. I know that we can work together to fix this problem." Which would you rather hear?

When you know you have to deal with a hard situation, such as having a family member with a severe illness, it may seem unfair. Learn to cope with feelings of resentment in other ways such as using yoga or meditation. Maybe you are the kind of person who needs to work out your resentments with running or biking. Perhaps you could release your feelings through music or poetry. Do what works best for you.

When should I seek help?
Increasing irritability and trouble letting go of resentment can be signs of depression. If this is a problem for you, ask your health care provider for help or a referral to a mental health professional.




  Disclaimer: This content is reviewed periodically and is subject to change as new health information becomes available. The information provided is intended to be informative and educational and is not a replacement for professional medical evaluation, advice, diagnosis or treatment by a healthcare professional.

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